Take a Long Hard Look at Yourself

Following on from the last blog ‘Is THIS it?’, let’s begin by finding out about your current lifestyle and how you feel about yourself.  I have devised a quiz called ‘What’s age got to do with it?’ Why not have a go then we can work together on some ideas to improve your scores.

1. How much ‘me time’ do you take per week, on average?

A. More than 5 hours per week

B. Between 1 and 4 hours per week

C. None

2. When was the last time you had exciting and passionate sex?

A. This week

B. In the last 6 months

C. Can’t remember!

3. Last time you looked at your partner did you:

A. Feel blissfully in love

B. Wonder what happened?

C. Feel completely trapped

4. Would you consider cosmetic surgery?

a. No, I don’t need it

b. Maybe

c. Definitely, if I could afford it

5. When you look in the mirror do you:

A. Feel happy with what you see

B. Know there’s some work to be done

C. Ban all mirrors in the house!

6. How often do you exercise?

A. More than once a week

B. A couple of times a month

C. Never

7. Do you have goals for the future that stretch you?

A. Yes, I’m very focused

B. I have a few

C. I don’t have any goals

8. Are you on track with your career?

A. Absolutely

B. Used to be

C. I’ve given up and am coasting to retirement

9. Is your work aligned with your core talents?

A. Yes, I love my work

B. Not really, but it pays the bills

C. No, my talents are totally wasted

10. Are you continually competing with younger women at work?

A. Yes, and I win!

B. Sometimes

C. All the time

11. How do you feel most of the time?

a. Energised and happy

b. Could be better

c. Pretty depressed

12. Do you believe that the best is yet to come?

A. Of course

B. Convince me

C. You must be kidding …

Now, add up the number of As, Bs and Cs, and find out what your choices suggest about you.

Mostly As: Congratulations! You are well on the way to breaking through to a new you, and I’ll show you how your life can get even better.

Mostly Bs: Your life doesn’t matter enough right now, does it? You are probably feeling pretty stuck and unfulfilled. It’s time to work out what you really want to do with the rest of your life. I’ll help you develop some ideas to do just that.

Mostly Cs: You’ve really bought into the media hype, haven’t you? You believe it’s too late to change. Be brave and dare to explore the possibilities of something different. I’ll show you how.

Is THIS it?

This blog is the first in a series written for mid-life women everywhere – women who want to believe in new beginnings not endings.  Women who want the next phase of their lives to be as good, or better, than anything they have experienced so far.

What is Mid Life?

In our image and age obsessed society it is high time that attention was paid to women in the middle phase of their lives.  For the record ‘mid’ can mean anything from mid 40’s through to late 50’s.  The important point is that if you feel as if you are in this new phase then you probably are. One of the things I hear more than anything else from my clients is that at some point during this period they start to feel invisible to the world.  In fact, one client said it is like living life in the cupboard under the stairs!

I saw this quote the other day which made me smile:

Have I lost weight? No. Am I wearing a burka? No. Have I slipped into a parallel universe?  No. Am I a mutant? No. I have simply turned 46. Sarah Vine

Proudly visible in an invisible segment of society

I prefer to describe myself as a proudly visible member of the most invisible segment of our society – mid-life women.  Whilst some women might tell you there are lots of advantages to being invisible as you can disappear into the background without having to ‘try’ very hard, I don’t personally buy it!  Most of the women I meet want to be vibrant and alive and embrace the changes that are happening to them rather than mourning the loss of youth.  They just need a bit of help to get there.

I want to demonstrate to you that aging is an ‘Attitude’ of mind and give you some practical ideas in my next few blogs.  You have a choice to feel good about yourself or disappear into the shadows.

Which do you want?