The Power of Language

The way we share and express our thoughts and beliefs is through language and the language we use makes a huge difference.  Start to become more aware of the language you use inside your head to yourself and the language you use with others.  Start to move it to a more positive place and notice how you feel about people, events, situations and circumstances in your life begins to change.

For example, when you hear can’t or the phrase I can’t rumbling around in your head, be alert to the possible presence of your inner saboteur.  Consider replacing the words you have just spoken or thought, replacing can’t with won’t or will or will not with choose to or choose not.  This will remind you of your responsibility for the limitation.  When you have done this you might consider adding the words ‘’until now’’ at the end or the beginning of the thought or spoken phrase.  This is one of the most powerful tools you have for controlling your inner saboteur.  For example, you might change:

I can’t tell him how I feel


I choose not to tell him how I feel


Until now I have chosen not to tell him what I feel

In a similar way, we can also change words such as:

I should, I must, I need to and so on


 I choose to or I choose not to or want to or don’t want to

This again gives us the responsibility for the action.

What’s is interesting is that when you start to reframe negative words into more positive ones you will notice how you feel about people, events, situations and circumstances in your life begins to change

Let me know how you get on.

Remember Your Qualities

Here is a short process that you can do to remind yourself of all your positive attributes.  It is amazing how much better you feel once you have completed the activity.  You will need a pen, some paper and a pretty box.

  • Step 1: Remember a time when you were a child that you felt really good about yourself. What three qualities did you most admire about yourself back then? Write them down and put them into your box
  • Step 2: What three qualities do you most admire about yourself now?
  • Step 3: Imagine a time in the future when you have achieved everything that you ever wanted to achieve.   What three things do you most admire about yourself at that point in time?
  • Step 4: Think about a person who loves you. What three qualities do they admire most about you?
  • Step 5: Think about a colleague at work who respects you. What three qualities do you think they admire most about you?
  • Step 6: You now have x 15 words in your pretty box.
  • As you look at each of the 15 words, notice how differently you are feeling. Notice where you are feeling each feeling. Spread the feeling throughout the rest of your body so it flows outwards and upwards. Do this each time you look at your list of 15 words. Notice how good it feels

Every time you need a boost of self-esteem empty out your box and look at the words inside.  It works wonders!

How to Become More Visible: Part One

How did you get on with the AWA quiz and the goal setting?  In this blog, I want to give you some practical strategies for feeling more visible and confident.

  • When you want to make an impact make sure you are in ‘uptime’. You can do this by putting your focus, attention and awareness outside of yourself.  Practice by projecting your energy as far as you can out in front of you.  This is good if you are walking into a room of people or when you are going to give a presentation.  The more you practice the more you will feel your energy expanding.
  • Imagine moving your focus and all your energy in to your lower stomach, just below the navel. Stand upright and imagine your legs feeling absolutely grounded with roots growing through the floor you are standing on. Make sure your weight is evenly balanced ie if you were standing on two sets of scales each scale would show the same weight.  It’s amazing how quickly we can focus our energy when we know what to do.  Notice how much more grounded and focused you feel in an instant
  • Here is another example of energy following thought. You’ll need to stand up to do this exercise. Find a space where you can move around with your arm outstretched freely.  Look forward and stand with your feet apart.  Stand rooted to the floor.  Now raise one arm horizontally out in front of you with your index finger pointed and gently twist around keeping your arm horizontal until you cannot twist any further (if you put your right arm out, twist to the right and visa versa).  Note carefully to yourself where finger is pointing – maybe there’s something in the room you can take as a marker.  Or if you have someone else with you ask them to stand as a marker for where your arm got to.  Now focus behind you and find a spot beyond where your arm reached the first time.  Fix that spot in your mind as you turn back around to face the front again.  Twist again moving your arm as far as it will go.  Hold it steady, turn around and see how much further you have moved your arm this time.

All these activities are great examples of the fact that your energy flows to where your attention goes.  Enjoy!  Let me know how you get on.