Your midlife is a time to step back and evaluate what truly makes you happy – and what doesn’t. So….
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It’s important for each of us to have goals, but we often forget or fail to put aside the time to set them. This is the point at which you can think about what you would like to change about your life. It could be that you would like to travel to far-flung shores, learn a new sport, language or skill, meet new friends, volunteer, start up a website or a book club, or anything else you set your mind to. Or it could be something more drastic, like changing your relationship, career or where you live.
I get asked a lot about the benefit of having goals? Here are my thoughts:
- Goals provide you with a destination. Most people in the Grey Zone live their lives aimlessly. They drift along without any clear direction. This can lead to emptiness and frustration. When we set goals, we are provided with a road map and a destination.
- Goals help you to concentrate your time and effort. One of the reasons that people with goals achieve such outstanding results is that they have learned how to focus and concentrate their time, energy and resources on a single objective – even if it is just for a few hours at a time.
- Goals provide motivation, persistence and desire. Most significant accomplishments require resilience and determination. It is very rare for something important to be accomplished successfully on the very first attempt. If you want to achieve anything significant, it is likely that you will learn from your mistakes as well as your successes.
- Goals help you establish priorities. You will find many forks in the road between where you are now and where you want to be. Prioritising gets easier once you have a goal, because your goal acts as a filter, weeding out distractions that do not assist you.
- Goals take you from where you are to where you want to be. One of the best ways to deal with a large or seemingly ‘impossible’ task is to break it up into a series of intermediate achievable steps and get to work on each piece. As Brian Tracy, well-known Canadian self-help author, says: ‘By the yard it’s hard, but inch by inch it’s a cinch!’
Have a think about the goals you want to set for yourself and write them down. You will find that they suddenly start to feel more real.