The way we share and express our thoughts and beliefs is through language and the language we use makes a huge difference. Start to become more aware of the language you use inside your head to yourself and the language you use with others. Start to move it to a more positive place and notice how you feel about people, events, situations and circumstances in your life begins to change.
For example, when you hear can’t or the phrase I can’t rumbling around in your head, be alert to the possible presence of your inner saboteur. Consider replacing the words you have just spoken or thought, replacing can’t with won’t or will or will not with choose to or choose not. This will remind you of your responsibility for the limitation. When you have done this you might consider adding the words ‘’until now’’ at the end or the beginning of the thought or spoken phrase. This is one of the most powerful tools you have for controlling your inner saboteur. For example, you might change:
I can’t tell him how I feel
I choose not to tell him how I feel
Until now I have chosen not to tell him what I feel
In a similar way, we can also change words such as:
I should, I must, I need to and so on
I choose to or I choose not to or want to or don’t want to
This again gives us the responsibility for the action.
What’s is interesting is that when you start to reframe negative words into more positive ones you will notice how you feel about people, events, situations and circumstances in your life begins to change
Let me know how you get on.